When we think about a happy marriage we often think it’s a matter of simple compatibility—and let’s just say it—good luck. On the flip side, we’re constantly being told that “marriage is hard work,” and in our popular culture, we’re barraged with articles with titles like, “10 tips to heighten your love/sex/communication in marriage,” as […]
It means, plain and simply, that if we want to experience the adoration of a lover’s devotion, then we have to give it. We have to practice adoring our partner, find the things we love about him or her and celebrate those things, and then, be constant in searching out a love experience based on […]
The stuff of easy sensuality is the heart of our sexual glue, and it’s at the center of the closeness that we’re long to experience together.
In a study of 1,000 adults conducted by The U.S. Travel Association, a surprising outcome was discovered. That is, traveling improves our sex life. 77% of the couples in the study reported that their sex life “drastically improved,’ after travel. More than that, travel has an effect on the longevity of a marriage, since the […]
We’re all busy. That’s just life on earth right now. And each year—with the pervasive yet overburdening power of the internet—we give ourselves more things to do: more ways to market, spin, connect, and work the room of not only our work life, but our social life as well. We’re screen-focused, for sure, and though […]
In my last blog we set up the idea that we can have a joyfully monogamous relationship in our marriage. We agreed that in order to have the love affair we’re really longing for with our partner, we’ve got to give up certain engrained myths that we’ve been schooled in. These include: 1) the ‘hot’ […]
‘Why aren’t we ever in the mood?’ A timeline for sex in marriage
“I’m Done with All That.” Why Sexless Marriages Aren’t Meant to Be.
When I think about the gifts of time-in having sex with my partner, what always comes to my mind is a phrase I coined: that is, that fulfilling, adult loving is like an Adult Disneyland. And the sensual difference between the experience I’m talking about and the one we usually measure ourselves against is this: […]
I’ve been using the hashtag #sexymarriage in my twitter posts lately and it’s got me to thinking: what truly makes for a sexy marriage? In our early-loving experiences we often thought that a sexy marriage was one that was populated by—you guessed it—lots and lots of sex. When I was first dating, I remember hearing […]