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Prowess: The Sexual and Sensual Gift of Married Love

In my last blog we set up the idea that we can have a joyfully monogamous relationship in our marriage.  We agreed that in order to have the love affair we’re really longing for with our partner, we’ve got to give up certain engrained myths that we’ve been schooled in. These include: 1) the ‘hot’ […]

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A Naked, Fulfilling, Monogamous Love Affair

If we want a truly fulfilling, monogamous love affair in our marriage, how do we get there? Our lives are busy and pressured with all of the duties and responsibilities of marriage and family life; our work lives demand more and more of our time; we’ve may have aging parents who need our attention, a […]

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The Path to a Happy Marriage

When we think about a happy marriage we often think it’s a matter of simple compatibility—and let’s just say it—good luck.  On the flip side, we’re constantly being told that “marriage is hard work,” and in our popular culture, we’re barraged with articles with titles like, “10 tips to heighten your love/sex/communication in marriage,” as […]

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Fun: the Sensual Glue that Builds Desire in Marriage

We’re all busy.  That’s just life on earth right now.  And each year—with the pervasive yet overburdening power of the internet—we give ourselves more things to do:  more ways to market, spin, connect, and work the room of not only our work life, but our social life as well. We’re screen-focused, for sure, and though […]

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A Sexless Marriage or ‘Joyful Monogamy?’

My dear friend and compatriot Bill Schacht (MS, LCSW), in his Franklin, Wisconsin, series “Great Relationship Sense,” has coined the phrase ‘Joyful Monogamy.’  (www.GreatRelationshipSense.com.) When we take a moment and think through what’s behind that phrase, what stands out is a progressive and marriage-supporting theme that monogamy can be and should be joyful, and need […]

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The Sexless Marriage

A sexless marriage.  It’s what we all dread—the going south of our passion for each other, the edginess and irritation that results, the worry and fear that our relationship is slowly disintegrating because we can’t touch each other. Just now, there’s a new conversation in our culture about the issue—which until now has been a […]

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Unplugging: Turning Off the Damned Devices in Marriage

Just today I was having a long chat with my best friend about the phenomenon of face-in-the-screen in marriage.  “It drives me nuts,” she said, “every time we go out for dinner he puts the damn phone right in the middle of the table.  It’s like whoever is calling or texting is more important than […]