In my last blog we set up the idea that we can have a joyfully monogamous relationship in our marriage. We agreed that in order to have the love affair we’re really longing for with our partner, we’ve got to give up certain engrained myths that we’ve been schooled in. These include: 1) the ‘hot’ […]
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The stuff of easy sensuality is the heart of our sexual glue, and it’s at the center of the closeness that we’re long to experience together.
‘Why aren’t we ever in the mood?’ A timeline for sex in marriage
I’ve been using the hashtag #sexymarriage in my twitter posts lately and it’s got me to thinking: what truly makes for a sexy marriage? In our early-loving experiences we often thought that a sexy marriage was one that was populated by—you guessed it—lots and lots of sex. When I was first dating, I remember hearing […]
How do we get to the loving we say we want in our busy marriages? Here’s how: we set and keep a regular time to be close to each other. The key of what I’m talking about is uninterrupted time. Time we can get our hands, hearts and bodies in regularly. Whenever I coach couples […]
My dear friend and compatriot Bill Schacht (MS, LCSW), in his Franklin, Wisconsin, series “Great Relationship Sense,” has coined the phrase ‘Joyful Monogamy.’ (www.GreatRelationshipSense.com.) When we take a moment and think through what’s behind that phrase, what stands out is a progressive and marriage-supporting theme that monogamy can be and should be joyful, and need […]