My dear friend and compatriot Bill Schacht (MS, LCSW), in his Franklin, Wisconsin, series “Great Relationship Sense,” has coined the phrase ‘Joyful Monogamy.’ (www.GreatRelationshipSense.com.) When we take a moment and think through what’s behind that phrase, what stands out is a progressive and marriage-supporting theme that monogamy can be and should be joyful, and need […]
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Sex in the age of reason: give up identifying with your head to find the gifts of sensuality in your marriage.
A sexless marriage. It’s what we all dread—the going south of our passion for each other, the edginess and irritation that results, the worry and fear that our relationship is slowly disintegrating because we can’t touch each other. Just now, there’s a new conversation in our culture about the issue—which until now has been a […]
One of my dearest friends, Misti Barnes, authored a beautiful and hilarious book on relationship co-dependency entitled, If You Leave Me, Can I Go With You? The theme, if you haven’t caught on already, is that when we get left, or distanced, we often panic over being left alone and try to hold on with […]
This past weekend I was wandering around the Abbott Kinney neighborhood of Venice Beach with my dear friend Samantha, doing a little bargain shopping and generally just wandering around in the sun together. I didn’t really need anything, but I had a little bit of cash to burn. As we wandered in and out of […]
Debt will kill your sex life. If you’re in an intimate relationship with another human being with which you have regular or committed contact, debt is going to take a toll, and that toll is going to make you pay exactly where you don’t want to—in the bedroom. You probably think I’m kidding, right? You […]
We all know the drill: We go out and buy something—maybe something expensive—just praying that our partner isn’t spending too. Then, we he comes home with whatever new credit-purchased toy he’s bought, the spitting match begins. “What are your doing? We don’t need that!” You yell at him. “And who said you need three new […]